Today I had lunch with my friend Paula. I enjoy being around Paula; she makes me smile and she is so grounded in her life. Paula takes most things in stride. I don’t recall ever seeing her really upset – oh there’s the standard job nonsense that we’ve all gone through, but Paula seems able to weather those storms quite well. What’s nice about this friendship is that we can be apart for long periods of time with an occasional email or two, then get together and gab for hours. We never run out of things to discuss. I don’t tire of talking with her or sharing stories; heck, we’ve even knitted together and that took much strength on my part. It was all I could do not to stab her with the needles because she was patiently grasping this knitting concept and I was sitting at the table watching the video for the hundredth time wondering why-oh-why I ever wanted to knit in the first place.
That’s the thing about friends — friends are people you are comfortable with, no pretense. You don’t need tons of friends; I can count my friends on both hands with a few fingers left over and I still consider myself blessed. Friends stick around; they don’t give up just because one moves out of town or someone changes jobs.
I always find it interesting to look at the people I am drawn to. Sometimes we may not have much in common but become fast friends anyway. That’s what happened with my friend Chris — from the moment he walked into my office I knew we were going to be close friends and now several years later I consider him family and love him dearly. Sometimes it’s our differences that make us bond. One of my dearest friends is 20 years older than I and for many years people couldn’t figure out why we were so close. The only thing we had in common was we both worked in the same office. She was an early middle-aged single mother of four and I was a twenty-something firecracker. But we enjoyed each other’s company and there was a feeling we had known each other our entire lives.
Anyway, I just wanted to take a moment and thank my friends for being my friends. My life is richer because of them.